Wednesday, May 28, 2008

The Secret Things You're Doing in Bed

We woke up on the wackier side of the bed here at Sex Files today. Our topic? The bizarre fetishes and strange sex habits that some couples are giving a try.

Our guest Ashlea Halpern from Time Out New York (you can find information on Ashlea in our previous post, below) shared her list of out-theres with us. We spent the hour talking about...

* Stomping (a subset of foot fetishists in which men like to be walked on with stilettos).

* Sex with inanimate objects (like "bicycle-sex girl" who did it with her own bike).

* We also hit on sploshing (sex with food), wearing women's clothes, and sexy cannibalism ( will give you an idea of of what that's all about).

And thanks to our other fantastic guest, sexologist Eric Garrison, we got down to the science and psychology behind those fetishes. Eric—who has joined us on Sex Files before—is a consulting sexologist and health educator on staff at the New School in New York, and a sex therapist in private practice who helps clients in person, by phone and via the internet. You can reach him here:

If you missed the live show today, tune in tonight for a replay (11 p.m. EST, 8 p.m. Pacific). Or, catch more replays of the show on Monday (2 p.m. and 11 p.m. EST, 11 a.m. and 8 p.m. PST). And as always, let us know if you have any comments or questions, as we always love to hear what you listeners have to say!

Tune into the Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again on the following Monday.

Sunday, May 25, 2008

Just How Weird Is Your Sex Life?

How much do we really know about each other's sex lives? According to Ashlea Halpern, a Time Out New York editor who's worked on their recent "Horny" issue as well as the quite controversial fall sex issue -- who happens to have a well-documented thing for olives" -- not nearly enough. Tune in as Ashlea tells us all about the bizarre fetishes and even stranger habits she's learned about on the job.

Tune into the Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again on the following Monday.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Beautiful Girls Unite

It was a stunning display on today's show, where guests (and super beauties) Tori, Kristen, Jen and Danica told our listeners what works and what doesn't work in terms of wooing them into bed (not to mention your hearts). Missed it? First, know that the pictures posted here aren't of random models we found on the Internet but actually two of our guests (the blond blond is Tori, the less blonde is Kristen -- we don't use words like "super beauties" lightly) -- and then, tune in again, as the show will be re-airing on channel 108 throughout the weekend and again on Monday at 2 pm (11 am PST).

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Have Your Eye on a Hot Girl?

Coming this week, live on Wednesday, May 21: Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Hot Girls!

We're going to have three super-sexy hot babes in the studio with us to talk about all the things you'd love to do with them. You know, primarily (1) Meeting them (2) Dating them and (3) Having sex with them.

See, they're kind of like regular girls in many ways, but with one major difference: They're hot as hell! Which is why we wanted to get them in the studio to give you insight on how their kind of woman thinks, and to answer your questions.

So...if you want to know what they're thinking when they see you, what they're talking about in the corner, how to approach them, what to say, what not to say, and how to make a move that leads all the way into the bedroom, tune in this week!

And if you have questions you want answered, call us as always, live, at 888-99-MAXIM.

Tune into the Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again on the following Monday.

Who's Paying for Sex?

This week on Sex Files, we talked about men who look for their sex the paid way: with prostitutes.

To help us, we had relationship expert and sexologist Logan Levkoff with us in the New York studio. Logan is author of Third Base Ain't What it Used to Be. Also on the phone with us was Kim Airs, a sex expert who has experience of a different kind: While working at Harvard, she used to have sex with men for money and is proud of it! (Their links are below in our previous post).

Both guests helped us navigate the waters of the topic as we talked about who is paying for sex and where. One statistic we dug up: 15% to 16% of men have paid prostitutes for sex. That number got us a few calls: Some from men who thought the number was far too low. And some from guys who thought it was too high!

And when one caller said he lived in the Midwest and didn't have access to prostitutes as easily, as, say, someone in Las Vegas might, Kim attributed the varying opinions on that number to just that: location, location, location.

Logan and Kim then helped us come up with our final feeling on the matter: For those of you guys who have considered paying for sex but don't want to stray from your relationship to do it, here are some ways to make your sex life at home feel just as exciting as sex you pay for:

1. If this is a fantasy of yours, find a way to express this to your partner. Logan suggests using media to help you: If you are watching a movie where this takes place (is Pretty Woman on cable, guys?) ask her what she thinks it would be like to be a woman paid for sex, and go from there...
2. Role play the experience. Meet your partner out, pretend to "proposition" her as you would a prostitute, then bring her home and do all the things you wish you could.
3. Negotiate a "fee" with your partner without leaving the house, and have her decide what you will get for your "money." Playing the role as if she's doing it for money might make your wife of 10 years feel like a sex kitten she never was before.

Finally, if you are ever paying for sex or plan to in the future, we have one thing to say: Unlike the former New York governor Eliot Spitzer who was reported to request sex without it: Please, use protection. Of course, that's true of whatever sex you're having outside of a monogamous, pre-tested relationship. Always safe, never sorry!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Hook, Line and Sink Her

Don't say we don't talk about what's really going on out there -- and in here.

On this week's show, we'll get down to business with this whole issue of prostitution. Now that the Spitzer scandal has died down somewhat, it's time to ask where, exactly, we all stand on the issue of paying for sex. Are the public figures who get busted for shelling out to get down representative of what's going on in our society at large or are the bold-faced more likely to believe the rules don't apply to them?

Chiming in will be author of Third Base Ain't What It Used to Be (who's also a sexologist, relationship expert and advice columnist) Logan Levkoff and Kim Airs, the owner of the female-oriented sexuality boutique Grand Opening -- who, faithful listeners may recall, we discussed when we had Mary Roach on a few weeks back. (Airs teaches classes around the country on topics such as stripping, the g-spot, anal sex, sex tips for guys and sex tips for gals, and S&M, among many other topics.)

And, of course, we hope to hear from the people we do it all for -- that is, you.

Tune into the Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and on the following Monday.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Charm School For Boys

Men know what it's like to pursue. It's what prevents them from being alone. Right?

Not so fast. We had the Art of Charm guys -- Jordan Harbinger, Johnny Dzubak and Joshua Pellicer -- in the house and according to these three, a skilled man can get women to come on to him. And he doesn't have to be the best-looking or smartest one in the room, either.

Like a lot of the seduction teachers out there, these guys believe that projecting confidence is key. But unlike some of those others, The Art of Charm guys aren't trying to mold men into semi-jerks or cartoonish attention-seekers. Subtly projecting confidence by truly coming to believe that they're worthy is the path the A.O.C. guys feel leads to success. And body language plays a huge role. If you missed the show and want to hear the one thing that could potentially change your life, know this: never, whatever you do, lean in toward a woman when you're talking to her because you're projecting neediness. (Who knew?)

While our triumvirate helped out a couple of the callers (one in particular, who wanted to know how to get a girl he'd met the week before to pursue him -- the answer was to name when and where he wanted to see her next, forcing her to come to his part of town), those who want more need only sign up for one of their workshops. And if you do, tell them Maxim sent you. And then, of course, call into the show and regale us with stories of your success.

Speaking of which, we always want you to remember that we're here to help you. Send us your questions (either to Anna through or to Amy at so we can. Each week, we'll pick one question to answer on the air. (And we never have to even know if you were leaning in when you were typing it!)

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Make Her Chase YOU!

Most of the time, when we're giving you guys tips on picking a woman up, we’re telling you how to approach her. Well, this week, we're turning the tables on the typical pick-up to talk about the art of the She-Chase.

Our guests this week will be dating coaches Joshua Pellicer and Jordan Harbinger of The Art of Charm. They've appeared on our show before, as well as on Covino & Rich, so many of you may already know them. Well, this week, instead of telling you how to approach a woman, Jordan and Joshua will teach you how to use body language and subtle signals to make her want to chase you.

And to see them in action, check out the video show at Current TV's The Art of Charm on Current TV.

And if you have any questions or comments you're hoping we hit on this show, feel free to comment here and let us know. Then tune in live on Wednesday to hear it all go down!

Tune into the Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and on the following Monday.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

The Wacky World Behind the "Bonk"

We had an entertaining and eye-opening show this week, thanks to our guest, best-selling author Mary Roach, who walked us through what she learned writing her new book, Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex.

Some of the highlights:

As we've discussed before on Sex Files, only a small percentage of women are able to climax during sex. Mary backed this up by saying that according to her sex research, she found only 20% to 30% of women are capable of it. And there may be an interesting reason why: Thanks to research done by Princess Marie Bonaparte (great grand-niece to Napolean), the distance between the clitoris and the vaginal opening for most women is about 1 inch.

Research found that women who measure shorter than 1 inch from the clitoris to the vaginal opening are the ones more likely to climax during orgasm. This is most likely because they are receiving more clitoral stimulation during sex, by virtue of their lucky anatomy. Marie is said to have tried to move hers closer during surgery (yikes) but for the rest of the women out there, we say as always: Stop making that a goal! Enjoy the rest of what you get out of sex, and climax every other way you know how.

Speaking of what's normal and not, Mary explained another sex fact she found: The majority of male penises are actually crooked, not straight. The most common condition? "Like Communists," Mary said, "they lean to the left."

Mary also told some funny stories about participating in a sex study herself (which involved having sex under an ultrasound), and seeking out bizarre sex toys (like the sex toy Anna once got to try, that allows you to view what's going on inside with a microscope). Man, talk about a way to ruin the mood! That probably explains, said Mary, why those toys didn't sell so well...

As always, we enjoyed getting your phone calls and answered as many as we could on the air—most of them involving questions about erectile dysfunction, which Mary's book covers in much more detail than we could. If you liked the show or want to know more, buy yourself a copy of Bonk at any major bookstore, or keep up with Mary Roach on her website:

And, if you missed the live show, tune into the replays, and catch us live again next week!

Tune into the Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific) and throughout the weekend, and on Mondays.