We Wish You the Best in Sex and Love!

Three days ago, Maxim Radio announced it will be no more, and Sirius channel 108 will become a brand new station as of Monday. Unfortunately, our show went down with the ship.

So we just want to say thank you to all of you loyal and part-time listeners for an amazing time! The end of Sex Files on Sirius radio marks exactly two years—to the week—that the show began. And it was YOU that made the show so much fun for us, as we aimed every week to give you men the best information and advice we could from our female point of view. Did it work? We hope so!

Here's the good news: Amy and Anna will continue to work on fabulous other projects.

Amy Spencer will continue to dole out relationship and love advice. In fact, Amy is currently writing a dating book for singles due out from Running Press in Spring 2010. So mark your calendars...if they go that far ahead! And she will continue to write about relationships, lifestyle and much more in magazines like Glamour, Page Six Magazine, Health, Redbook and more. Keep up with Amy at www.amy-spencer.com.







Anna David still brilliantly answers sex and love questions every week on G4's Attack of the Show and has two books coming out.


Anna's second novel, Bought from Harper Collins, is coming out in May 2009, and she is editing an anthology on reality shows for Harper Collins, due out in the Fall of 09. Keep up to date on Anna at www.annadavid.com.

So don't be a stranger. Check in with us every once in a while! And as for your own love and sex lives, we say this:

Keep communicating, keep showing affection, keep talking about your feelings (yes, even you tough guys) and as Amy always says, keep telling her she’s beautiful and she'll only become more so.

Thanks again for rolling (in the hay) with us. It truly has been real.

xoxo
Amy & Anna

Myth Dispelling

There are certain things you guys believe to be true about women. Some of these are accurate -- yes, we do tend to be cleaner and chattier than you -- but some simply aren't. They're myths.

Myth #1: Girls masturbate rarely -- if ever;
Myth #2: Girls don't like porn and only watch it with you because they're being nice;
Myth #3: Girls can go without sex for long periods of time and not care.

In studio to help dispel these myths and more will be Amelia McDonnell-Parry, the Editor-in-Chief of the relatively new site thefrisky.com, a "daily romp on the sexy side" that covers such topics as Sarah Palin erotica and how not to be a bad ex.

Amelia has worked at Maxim and Rolling Stone and though she publicly claims to be "a little prudish," we're not afraid to find out if that's another myth we need to dispel.

Also chiming in will be returning guest Twanna Hines, she of the Funky Brown Chick nom de plume and sex and dating articles for many places, including Nerve -- as well as her own fantabulous blog.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Did somebody say cougar?

Oh, that's right. It was you guys. Those of you who've discovered the satisfying world of sex with an older woman. Well, this week on Sex Files, we're going to dive down into that world from the female point of view—we're going to give you advice on how to get some from the cougars themselves.

Our first guest is Ilona Paris, licensed mental health counselor, who specializes in working with people who are into alternative lifestyles in their sexuality.

Ilona is the author of the brand spanking new book, Hot Cougar Sex: Steamy Encounters with Younger Men, out this week.

And she wants to tell you all about it.






Also joining us in-studio is the fabulous Debbie Nigro, self-described cougar, and founder of First Wives World.


Here, Debbie keeps her own blog, In Case You Care What's On My Mind.

So tune in and ask all the questions you want to know about cougars—how to meet one, how to woo one, how to keep her happy, and more—from the experts who know!

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Did Somebody Say Menage?

Maybe it's on your "To Do" list. Maybe you've already done it. Maybe you know you never will.

Whichever the case, the threesome remains one of the most discussed, fantasized-about scenarios known to sex. But how do you actually go about initiating one? And is it something you may later regret? Or perhaps a situation you'd like to repeat?

To answer these questions -- as well as any others that arise -- we'll have Lainie Spesier, the author of Threesomes: For Couples Who Want to Know More and Lola Gee, who throws Penthouse swingers parties, in the studio this Wednesday.

Please join us for this three-way (us, the experts, and you) conversation.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Listen to Last Week's Show!

For those of you who missed last week's show with dating bloggers Twanna, known as "The Funky Brown Chick" and Judy McGrath, this is your chance to catch up and find out this one important-yet-frightening fact: What are women kissing and telling about you when you're not around?


If you've already heard it, you may just learn more from another listen. Either way, follow this link to Twanna's blog to hear the audio of the show: Sex Files Audio 10/15/08: What Women Are Saying About You When You're Not Around

Thanks for posting this Twanna!

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

The Man's Manual

Yes, there is now a guidebook for how to be, well, you. And we must say, some of the tips in it are genius.

The book is called just that, The Man's Manual, and we highly recommend it for a fun read and some clever ideas on how to get everything you want and need.

Tune in this week as the author Gregg Stebben joins us in the studio to give you some funny but straight-talking tips on how to do all sorts of important things when it comes to sex and relationships.

Like:

* How to become a sex object
* How to avoid marriage
* How to choose the perfect gift
* How to lie
* How to breakup with someone (to whom you've probably lied)
* And, as it says on the cover, much, much more...





Also joining us will be another expert on the guy kind of life, Ron Geraci. Ron is a returning guest, the author of very funny memoir about making it work with women, The Bachelor Chronicles.


We're pretty confident Gregg and Ron will improve your life this week, with the insight you can only get when, you know, you're the ones writing the manuals yourself.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Practice Your Vote: Rate Us!

Turns out there's a web site devoted to rating radio shows, so we're curious to hear what you think!


Go to this link on the Radio Ratingz web site, give us a rating from low-1 to high-5 (like there's any question what we're hoping you'll say) and add a quick comment: Rate the Sex Files!

The good news? You don't have to sign into the site or create a username—none of that malarky. Honestly, it takes about 30 seconds in total. Not even a full work-procrastination minute.


The better news? Whether your vote is great or average, we'll be totally, truly grateful to have you speak your mind. And, well, you know how generous we women get when we're grateful...

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

What We Say About You When You're Not There

Girls talk. This isn't exactly a shocking revelation. But what, exactly, are we saying to our friends about you? Are we spilling every last detail of what happened between the sheets? Or are we remaining mum on the sex stuff and dissecting every aspect of your personality?

Who better to ask than those who've made a career out of writing about their mishaps and joys on the dating scene?


Tune in and listen to Judy McGuire -- who, in addition to penning the "Date Girl" column for the Seattle Weekly for the past eight years, also keeps up her Bad Advice blog and published a book, How Not to Date, which details all sorts of dates and offers advice on how to escape from the most hellish.


Joining Judy will be Twanna, a.k.a. Funky Brown Chick, whose award-winning blog, Funky Brown Chick, chronicles her feelings on men, sex and many other topics. She's also been called "one of those women who oozes sexuality." Does she belong on Sex Files or what?

Chances are, you're not dating a woman who writes about her sex and dating life. Which is why you need Judy and Twanna to tell you what they're really saying when you're not around.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

TONIGHT: Try Some Full Moon Love!

We just thought we'd remind you all of our last show's "Sex Tip of the Week," because it's our quest to help all couples come together as often as possible on this big blue planet.

According to research, women are 30 percent more sexually active during the full moon. And the next full moon appears... tonight! That's right, tonight, Tuesday, October 14th.

Like all things astrological, experts can’t say exactly why this happens. Some think that the gravitational pull of the moon affects women’s menstrual cycles, making her more likely to ovulate during a full moon, which makes her more randy overall. But really, who cares why she’ll be riled up? The point is to take advantage of it! So guys? Do yourselves a favor, and find a will and a way to get the woman you love in your bed tonight so you can both have a whole night of full moon love. Getting her howling is up to you.

For more great suggestions from Anna and Amy, tune into our regular live show tomorrow to find out what women are kissing-and-telling about you when you're not around.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Girls Talk about Guys Sexiest Moves Ever...

Our planned guest won't be joining us this week, but we promised you a show on how to spice up your sex life, and you will get it! In fact, because we like you so much, we've decided to step up the show and make it sexier than we thought possible.

Joining us in-studio this week are three, maybe four hot girls for a real-woman discussion of what makes them hot, both in and out of the bedroom.


We suggest you take this opportunity to be a fly on the wall and listen in as a group of girls talks about sex, uncensored, just like they would if they were hanging out over cocktails. Steal whatever tips you want from our sexy female friends — just don't forget who to thank later.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Join the Sex Files Radio Group!

As Anna said on the show today, the Sex Files gang has joined modern society by starting our own Facebook group. And we'd love to have all of our awesome listeners show your faces along with us.



We'll use the site as a place to collect some fans, find some new friends, post photos of our cute and sexy guests, suggest links we think you should see, and lots, lots more. What better way to feel a little warm love from Amy and Anna on a chilly night? We've already posted some shots of our guests today, so come check it out and add yourself to the "Sex Files Radio Show" group.

Here, we'll make it easy for you, because we like you that much. Just find us here and join in the Facebook fun! Sex Files Radio Show Facebook Group

Can Women Separate Love and Sex?

Well, who better to ask than the woman who wrote a compelling, amusing and disarmingly honest piece on the topic? We're talking about Jennifer Armstrong, who co-edits the witty and wise ezine Sirensmag with Heather Wood Rudolph -- who will also be joining us out of our L.A. studio. Tune in to find out if she wants to love you or just be your booty call (yes, we hear this is possible).

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Sex and the Single Mom

We get calls and emails from lots of you guys who are dating or want to date single women who happen to have an extra appendage of sorts: a child. And as your questions indicate, it makes dating and sex pretty dang tricky.

So this week, we're doing you all one huge favor: We're bringing two sexy, sassy single moms into the studio to explain what single moms want, need and will do anything for when it comes to dating and sex. After all, single moms obviously have sex (well, they did at least once!), and seeing how difficult taking care of a child can be, they may just be dying to have some alone time with you.

So this week, we will be joined by Christine Coppa, who writes for Glamour magazine's blog Storked!, and is currently working on Rattled!, a book about surviving as a single mom due out in April.


We also have Rachel Sarah, author of the hilarious how-hard-it-is-to-date book, Single Mom Seeking

They'll tell you how to approach a single mom, what to say, what never to say, and exactly how to work your way into a single mom's heart and, well, her bedroom. Tune in for what should be a surprisingly fun and sexy show!


Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Talking Dirty

You've heard people doing it. Maybe you've even indulged in it yourself, or wish you were better at it.

There's definitely an art to talking dirty. And who better to explain it to us than Ellen Sussman, the editor of the oh-so-sexy-yet-erudite collection of essays Dirty Words and one of her contributors, the fierce and fabulous (and returning guest) Abiola Abrams?

Listen in for a vocab lesson far different than any you've ever had before.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

How to Handle a Tough Chick

There are all types of women out there, and we want to be sure you know how to deal with all of them. This week, we'll be talking with two cool, tough women.

First, we have entertainment journalist Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna. She's a new guest on our show and author of the cool new book Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, A Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star, featuring stories from sexy celebrity tough chicks Dita Von Teese, Kat Von D, Katy Perry, Lisa Loeb and others.



Also on our show is another tough chick, returning guest and equally awesome sex expert Jayme Waxman.

Tune in and hear about how to approach them, how to date them, how to soften them up just enough to make sure your tough chick doesn't roll right over you.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Get Her to Love the Real You

Good news today: Schlubby guys can get the girl, and it doesn't require an overhaul to do it.

We learned this from our guest New York Post writer and reporter Max Gross, author of the hilarious new book From Schlub to Stud, in which he learns how to get a girl to love you for who you really are—schlubby clothes and all.

Also on the show this week was Phil, returning guest co-author of the book What Men Don't Want Women to Know.

As Max explained, it's all about developing confidence, asking out lots and lots of girls (rejection gets easier after the umpteenth time), and letting girls see your talents—are you funny like Max? a good pool player? a good cook?

And it wouldn't hurt to hint to a girl that you'd be happy to let her make you over—you know we girls can't resist a before and after. Just be sure to put off showing her your schlubby apartment for as long as possible.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Schlub = Stud?

With Seth Rogan burning up the multiplexes and Jack Black a bonafide movie star, isn't it time real men -- aka, non Brad Pitt's, who maybe have a pot belly, some unruly hair and a predilection for non-cleanliness -- got some appreciation?

That's what happened to New York Post scribe Max Gross, the author of the appropriately titled From Schlub to Stud: How to Embrace Your Inner Mensch and Conquer the Big City, who found love -- and a book contract! -- while never letting go of his inner (and outer) schlub.

Want to know how to be who you are and still snag the ladies? Tune into this week's show and let Max show (er, tell) you the way...

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Do You Want to Win Her Back?

A few months ago, I asked some of you guys for your stories on winning back the heart of a girl you loved and lost (or, uh, loved and dumped). Thank you to those of you who responded. And here is the final product, which appeared in the September 2008 issue of Glamour magazine.

So for those of you who need some ideas on how to win her back, these guys sure came up with some genius ideas. Just click on the thumbnail of each page to pull up a readable version:





—Amy

Your Questions, Our Answers!

You learn something new every week...especially this week. We spent the full hour answering all the relationship and sex questions you've always wanted to ask with the help of our returning guest expert Eric Marlowe Garrison, Consulting Sexologist. Reach him at his new web site: www.ericmgarrison.com.


Oh, the things we covered, like...

How to approach a woman in Starbucks. (Asking about her cinnamon latte is a good start.)

How to talk to a woman you notice when you're hanging out with a group of girls. (This is a great time for a wingwoman move.)

How to slow down your climax for an "early ejaculator." Eric's tips? Use a condom during sex to lessen your sensitivity so you can last a little longer. And here's another great one: Make sure that when you're, ahem, pleasuring yourself at home alone with your bad self, you're not just doing a quick bang-up job in the bathroom. Use the time to practice lasting longer. Eventually, over time, the more you practice and lengthen the time you can keep it up alone, the longer your body will be able to do it with your partner.

And, as always, we talked about much, much more.

So thank you to our great callers, because your unique questions are what make shows like this so worthwhile! And if you have more questions for us live next week, call us at 888-99-MAXIM—or, of course, for you Blackberry folks: 888-996-2946. Until next time!

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex...

...But Were Afraid to Ask: The Sex Files special.

We know you have questions. And we have answers. Or, when we don't, we bring in people who do.

In honor of the ever-perplexing nature of sex -- and all those queries people are plagued with that they're too damn embarrassed to admit to -- we're dedicating the entire hour of this week's show to making it all a bit less confusing for you.

Helping us out in our quest to educate will be returning guest Eric M. Garrison, MAEd, MSc (which, roughly translated, means he really knows what he's talking about).

Call in during the show or, if you want to just be able to listen without waiting on hold, drop us a line ahead of time and we'll make sure we get to it live. Remember, there's no such thing as a stupid question.*

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

*Except, maybe, if masturbation will make you blind. That really is pretty dumb.