Question-opaly

So we'll admit it. Our Faye Flam and Ron Geraci show sent you listeners into overdrive and we -- meaning our ever so knowledgeable guests -- were answering questions about every sex problem you can name (and even some you can't). Among the interesting tidbits that were unearthed during the hour:

-One study that was mentioned revealed that 60-80% of men want sex on a regular basis, while only 20% of women do.

-There may be an evolutionary reason why men like porn: scientists have learned from watching animals that a creature who's watching two others have sex may have a chance for his own go after the first guy finishes, thereby increasing his chances of being able to reproduce. So men may well enjoy getting their Jemma Jameson on simply because they're biologically programmed to like watching. How's that for an excuse?

-Foot fetishes may be linked to the fact that when little boys are growing up, there are so many places on women that they're not allowed to look that feet get more than their share of focus; thus an attachment and association between women and feet develops.

-There are devices that can be attached to people while they're watching porn to measure how excited they get.

And this is only a small taste of what was covered. What else was in between and how on earth do all those disparate facts connect? Well, find out for yourself...

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Your Guy "Get-Out-of-the-Doghouse" Card

Ever find yourself apologizing for all the "ugh, you're such a guy" things you do?

You know, watching too much porn, trying to impress us too much with how much money you have, and still intent on mastering those pick-up tricks to score with women?

Well this week, you'll learn some scientific excuses to use the next time a woman calls you out on your brutish behavior. Yep, it's all because of pure, basic biology.

You'll be thanking this week's guest Faye Flam, who writes about science in her column for The Philadelphia Inquirer "Carnal Knowledge" (which was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize in 2006), and author of the brand new book The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man.


We'll also be joined by writer and expert of the male mind Ron Geraci, author of The Bachelor Chronicles.


Oh, and we'll also give you a few tips on what science—and experience—has found women love most. You know, just helping you guys get some. All in a happy week's work on Sex Files. Talk to you this Wednesday!

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

How to Keep Her Happy

This week on Sex Files, we handed out some seriously practical advice about how to keep your girlfriend or wife in a happy, pleasured place—both in the bedroom and out. We got lots of great tips from our guests Dana B. Myers and Charlie Myers, of BootyParlor.com

* Listen to her (yes, really actually listen) and ask her questions. As if, you know, you actually care.

* Compliment her throughout the day (Try a simple sentence like: "You look so _________" and fill it in with an adjective like "lovely," "hot," "gorgeous," "beautiful," "cute as hell," or "sexy") to build up to how beautiful she looks in bed.

* Introduce her to new things in the bedroom that will drive her wild and make her want to please you in return.

But as always on the show, we found ourselves talking about a littany of oh-so-much-more than we intended. Like:

* When a 26-year-old male virgin listener should reveal his sexual status to his dates (we voted that an announcement like this can wait until the relationship reaches the bedroom on it's own)

* How a listener's wife who still isn't able to open herself up to sex (literally) even after 3 years of marriage needs to take their issue to a sex counselor. As always, if you have a situation that could benefit from professional intervention, we recommend you visit the American Association of Sexualtiy Educators, Counselors and Therapists at www.aasect.org.

* If it's possible to wean a woman off of a vibrator (yep, it is) and how.

* Why a woman sometimes loves to be thrown down on the bed and taken—which is best accompanied by an explanation like, "You're so hot, I can't take it, I need to have you right now!" Anna said she thinks that 9 out of 10 times, your woman will be into it, and the rest of the females on the panel agreed.

We debated a few topics: Should sex props & toys be introduced through pampering her in a slow, sensual way, or should you just break them out and get hot right away? Should ask if she likes what you're doing in bed or just plain do it?

And if you missed any of it, you'll just have to listen to the replay. And vow never to miss a great show again.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

If She's Happy...You're Happy

It's a cliché...because it's true. Which is why this week, we thought we'd give you a few tips on how to make sure your woman is happy both outside and inside the bedroom.


To talk about the topic with us, we have an expert His/Her team in the studio with us: Dana B. Myers and Charlie Myers, founders of BootyParlor.com, which is an extraordinary, cool joint full of sexy toys and props that can add a little (or, if you're game, a lot of) adventure to your sex life.


Dana and Charlie will be helping us deliver to you The Ultimate "If She's Happy, You're Happy" Sex and Relationship Guide.

So tune in and find out how to make your woman ooh, ahh and otherwise glow. I mean, come on, who doesn't want a happy woman ready to show you how grateful she is at the end of the day?

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Fantasy Island

So how did fantasy sharing go?

Well, with two well-known sex experts in the house (one of whom recently directed her first adult movie), we covered some of the most common female fantasies -- and then got you to chime in about yours. Cross-dressing, public sex, and rape fantasies were merely a few of the many typically taboo topics we got on the table. And just to keep things on the up and up and make sure the temperature didn't reach a boiling point, we also had a sexologist chiming in about what our fantasies say about us.

Then we had Abiola leading us out with a sex tip about dirty talk -- which included actual language you can use for sex texts. Did you jot it down? Did you - gasp - miss it? Well, replays were made for people like you.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

What's Your Sex Fantasy?

Look, we all have 'em. And whether yours are depraved, decadent or downright disturbing, you'd best tune into this Wednesday's show to hear what our fantasies are -- and what we have to say about yours.

Filling in for Amy (hey, we all need a break every now and then) will be Penthouse editor Rachel Kramer Bussel. Rachel is the mind and muscle behind the ever-popular In The Flesh reading series (which Anna will be participating in this coming Thursday) as well as the editor of a plethora of anthologies.

Joining us will be Abiola Abrams, BET personality and author of Dare and Eric Marlowe Garrison, MAEd, MSc, DLSHTM, CSC (no, we're not kidding) as well as you, the listeners.

We dare you to participate.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

A Day in the Life of a Job Watching Porn

If you've ever wondered who's job it is to watch all those porn videos so they can review them for you, then mystery solved!

Yesterday on Sex Files, we were joined by the gorgeous and intelligent Carly Milne, author of Sexography (basically, a biography of her sex life from her birth until now), and a former editor for AVN (Adult Video News) magazine.

Carly is also the editor of Naked Ambition, stories by pornographers about working in the industry, as well as a contributor to Hooking Up: You'll Never Make Love in This Town Again, a behind the scenes look at sex in Hollywood.

For one full hour, Carly talked about working behind the scenes of the magazine, watching 30 porn films a month (yes, they had their own private cubicles with doors in case any editors, ahem, were really enjoying the films), and visiting live filming on set.

If you missed the show, be sure to catch a replay (times listed below). Or, just rent a copy of Carly's favorite film she reviewed in AVN: Where the Boys Aren't 14. (And yes, we asked too: What the heck happened in 1-13?) Ah, who cares. She says this video by Vivid films is hot stuff.

So is our show, so be sure to tune in again live next week!

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Porn Apart

Ever wanted to know the inside skinny on porn -- what the porn stars are really like, how to have porn star sex and maybe even the ways to score a porn star for yourself?

You're in luck. Tune into our show this Wednesday, July 9th, for all that and more from Carly Milne -- the author of Sexography and former porn editor and publicist.

Now who takes better care of you than us? That's what we thought...

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

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Strippers in Da House...Sort Of

This week, we're giving you the inside scoop from females who have taken it off—all off. Partly for your sake, partly because we're curious as hell ourselves: What are those strippers thinking of the guys they're dancing for? What does it take to catch one's eye? And can you ever—without offering money—intrigue a stripper enough to take you home?

We'll all find out together this week thanks to our two expert guests:


Joining us in the studio is Ruth Fowler, author of the new book No Man's Land as well as author and editor and proud former stripper herself, Lily Burana. It should all make for quite a show.




Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesday at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.