The Motion of the Ocean

Try this one on for size: It doesn't matter.

That's right. Forget what you learned from those snippets of Sex and the City that you caught, forget those nagging thoughts...

What we talked about on the April 8th show was the fact that most women know that it's not what you've got but what you do with it that matters.

Our first guest, Mason Love, discussed male and female sexual partners she's had and gave tips on using other body parts in bed -- namely, the hands (her motto: "Get inside, stay inside.")

Sex and relationship counselor and best-selling author Ian Kerner, Ph.D. joined in halfway through the show and urged listeners to get cliterate -- in other words, to educate themselves about female sexuality, which will in turn give them confidence in the sack. Dr. Kerner pointed out that the nerve endings in the clitoris that are the most responsive are closest to the outside, clarifying once and for all the fact that bigger definitely isn't always better.

One of the listeners who called in wanted to find out how to get his kissing groove back (prescription: getting back on the horse and remembering that every woman is different so he should just do what he likes -- but also remember not to neglect the lips) and another talked about premature ejaculation, a specialty of Kerner's (you can read one of his written-out answers to a question like this here).

Be sure to check out Ian Kerner's many books (his latest is Sex Detox: Recharge Desire, Revitalize Intimacy, Rejuvenate Your Love Life) and, of course, to tune back into Sex Files on Sirius Maxim Channel 108 next Wednesday at 2 pm EST (11 am PT) for the latest information and insights on sex and love...