Do You Want to Win Her Back?

A few months ago, I asked some of you guys for your stories on winning back the heart of a girl you loved and lost (or, uh, loved and dumped). Thank you to those of you who responded. And here is the final product, which appeared in the September 2008 issue of Glamour magazine.

So for those of you who need some ideas on how to win her back, these guys sure came up with some genius ideas. Just click on the thumbnail of each page to pull up a readable version:





—Amy

Your Questions, Our Answers!

You learn something new every week...especially this week. We spent the full hour answering all the relationship and sex questions you've always wanted to ask with the help of our returning guest expert Eric Marlowe Garrison, Consulting Sexologist. Reach him at his new web site: www.ericmgarrison.com.


Oh, the things we covered, like...

How to approach a woman in Starbucks. (Asking about her cinnamon latte is a good start.)

How to talk to a woman you notice when you're hanging out with a group of girls. (This is a great time for a wingwoman move.)

How to slow down your climax for an "early ejaculator." Eric's tips? Use a condom during sex to lessen your sensitivity so you can last a little longer. And here's another great one: Make sure that when you're, ahem, pleasuring yourself at home alone with your bad self, you're not just doing a quick bang-up job in the bathroom. Use the time to practice lasting longer. Eventually, over time, the more you practice and lengthen the time you can keep it up alone, the longer your body will be able to do it with your partner.

And, as always, we talked about much, much more.

So thank you to our great callers, because your unique questions are what make shows like this so worthwhile! And if you have more questions for us live next week, call us at 888-99-MAXIM—or, of course, for you Blackberry folks: 888-996-2946. Until next time!

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Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex...

...But Were Afraid to Ask: The Sex Files special.

We know you have questions. And we have answers. Or, when we don't, we bring in people who do.

In honor of the ever-perplexing nature of sex -- and all those queries people are plagued with that they're too damn embarrassed to admit to -- we're dedicating the entire hour of this week's show to making it all a bit less confusing for you.

Helping us out in our quest to educate will be returning guest Eric M. Garrison, MAEd, MSc (which, roughly translated, means he really knows what he's talking about).

Call in during the show or, if you want to just be able to listen without waiting on hold, drop us a line ahead of time and we'll make sure we get to it live. Remember, there's no such thing as a stupid question.*

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

*Except, maybe, if masturbation will make you blind. That really is pretty dumb.

Girl (on Girl) Talk

It was a full of hour of girl talk on "Sex Files" this week -- girl-on-girl talk, that is.

Jude Schell, the author of Lesbian Sex: 101 Lovemaking Positions, as well as our own personal woman who loves women, Maven, told us how to use the kind of information that lesbians come by naturally to enhance all of our sex lives.

Among the tips:

-Slow down: check out all the zones of her body using the many tools you have at your disposal (and not just your main one).
-Get uncomfortable while giving oral sex? Grab yourself a pillow and settle in.
-Speaking of oral sex, build slowly the main event: nibble on the insides of her thighs and then think of kissing her down there the same way you might kiss her other lips.

You want more? Well, then listen to the replay. Because we're here to tell you that no one knows women like other women.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Who knows a woman's body better...

...than another woman?

No one.

And that's why this Wednesday, we're pleased to bring you Jude Schell, the author of Lesbian Sex: 101 Lovemaking Positions, as our guest.

Some excerpts from the book include:

climax

For women, recovery time between climaxes is minimal or nonexistent. She may be swollen and sensitive, but can usually continue to make love if all the attention is not placed directly on the tip of her clitoris.

lips

Lips deserve the extra attention they implore. Try slow and soft nibbles, beginning on her lower lip. She'll tingle with anticipation when you spend some time emulating on her sensitive mouth.

Who says we don't spoil you rotten?

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Well, uh, THAT was awkward...

What a fun week on Sex Files. Anna was sorely missed, but we hope our gang of gorgeous single girls in the studio helped make up for the loss. Thanks to Sophie, Tal and Alex, we learned a lot today about How to Survive the Most Awkward Moments in Love, Dating and Sex. For instance...

Tip #1: If you have your eye on a woman but don't want to face the possibility of an awkward face-to-face rejection, consider slipping her a note at the end of the night.


That worked for Alex! After one business meeting that turned to questionable flirting, she looked down to her purse at the end of the night and found a note sitting on top of it, from her business date. On the note was a poem expressing how attracted he was to her. If you're not a poet, you don't have to go that far, but all of us agreed that slipping some kind of note might work. Try writing, "Your eyes kill me" or "I like red shirts" (if she's wearing red) or "Your laugh is infectious" or "You couldn't be more beautiful." Make it a flattering compliment. Then, add your name and number on the bottom, and if your bold move works, she'll call you!

Tip #2: If you think there's a possibility of, uh, getting some at the end of the night, make sure you come prepared with protection. And when the awkward moment comes when you want to pull out your drugstore purchase, ask her first, "Should I get something?"

Tip #3: We were torn on how to avoid the awkward "first kiss." Some girls liked the idea of asking, "Can I kiss you?" but that only works if you're gazing into her eyes, and there's already a staggering amount of sexual energy working.
If not, either tell her what you're going to do, "God, I have to kiss you." But for you nice guys out there who get "Stuck in the Friend Zone," don't ask. JUST KISS HER! She doesn't have to kiss you back. But here's hoping you give her such a good smacker, she simply can't help it.


Actually, there was just too much dang wisdom today to sum it all up here. So let's make a deal: Either catch the replay, or just be sure to tune in next week and every week thereafter so you never get stuck missing our lovely voices again!

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Have You EVER Felt Awkward With a Woman?

We may be able to help. Because, let's be honest, dating and sex are fraught with moments that can turn awkward in an instant.

Asking her out. The first kiss. The contest to see who'll ask that awkward, "Uh, do you have anything?" question in bed.

Well, this week, three gorgeous girls are going to talk about all the this-is-so-embarrassing moments they've had in dating and sex. They'll also give you their advice on how to avoid landing on the red-faced planet yourself. And, as always, we'll be taking your calls LIVE. So if you want to know how to skip the speedbumps and pull off some smooth moves, call us at 888-99-MAXIM. The girls will be waiting...


Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Mind-blowing and then some...

So as promised, we told you all about how to titillate the woman in your life until she couldn't be titillated any more.

Some highlights:

-Get the girl practicing on herself

-Get her going on some Kegels

-Get her the books by our all-knowing guests Susan Crain Bakos and Julie Jeffries.

You can thank us later.

Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.

Give Her a Mind-Blowing Oh-Oh-Oh

Grab a pen and paper and get ready to take some serious notes... because this week, we're going to tell you all you need to know to give your woman a mind-blowing, earth-shattering, life-altering, relationship-changing, incredible, awesome orgasm.

We'll do that with the help of our guest Susan Crain Bakos, sex educator, research sexologist, and author of the new book The Sex Bible for Women.


Remember, guys: If you know what's going on within her body, you'll know juuuust how to touch her to get her all sorts of riled up. (And to our female listeners/readers, it never hurts to learn a little more!)

Keep up with all of Susan's sex insights and tips on Susan's "Sexy Prime" Blog. (The woman in your life will especially enjoy it!) and check out her other books on sex technique:


Also helping us with some orgasm insights: returning guest Julie Jeffries, co-author of Red Hot Touch. She gave us some super-insightful tips last time, and has lots more tips to give, all of which can be found in her book:



Tune into Sex Files live on Sirius Maxim Channel 108, Wednesdays at 2 p.m. EST (11 a.m. Pacific). The show replays at 11 p.m. EST (8 p.m. Pacific), throughout the weekend, and again at 2 and 11 p.m. EST (11 a.m. and 8 p.m. Pacific) on the following Monday.